Bullying is intimidation — it can take many forms and happens in lots of places. It’s never OK, its not your fault and there are things that you can do to stop it. There are some good web sites that offer solid advice on things that you can do to stop bullies, but first here are the basics:

  • ignore them / walk away — often bullying is just to get attention. If you can ignore or avoid them they don’t get the attention that they’re after
  • calmly tell them to stop — try not to shout or get aggressive — that just gets them more attention
  • tell an adult — preferably someone in a position to take some action
  • be a friend — if you see someone else being bullied try to stop it. Its harder for bullies to pick on people who have the support of a group. Tell the victim it is not their fault and encourage them to talk to a trusted adult.

Bullying can take many forms, from name calling or spreading lies to physical or written abuse. It can also include coercion — making someone do something they don’t want to do and exclusion of particular individuals.

Cyber bullying and online safety

Netsafe is New Zealand’s independent, non-profit online safety organisation. It provides online safety help, support, expertise and education to people in New Zealand.

Netsafe has useful information for young people on topics like:

Helpful websites

Pink Shirt Day
“Kōrero Mai, Kōrero Atu, Mauri Tū, Mauri Ora – Speak Up, Stand Together, Stop Bullying!

0800 What's Up
Information and advice on bullying and cyber bullying.

Bullying in New Zealand Schools
Information from Bullying Free NZ.

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